what I want to say:

Last week, somehow...my ex-husbands profile poped up in the "friend suggestion" on Facebook...imagine my shock to see a picture of Cameron as his profile picture.  If you don't know the story of Cameron you can check here,  or here.

I simply sent him a message on FB that said "Why in the world would you use Cameron's picture on your profile?"

His response is "You know why, I really didn't think you would get mad.  Tracy and mom get to talk to Cameron and I don't.  It ,actually makes me feel alot better about YOU.  I didn't know it would offend you."

I didn't respond to that I just blocked him.  But this is what I would like to respond...because I divorced him to quit arguing and fighting I will just post it here...


No Mark I don't know the answer.


When you posted that picture - I'm sure it was for Fathers Day that you put it up there, did you intend to imply that you are the father of both of those children??? Did you by chance post under that picture...these are my children, I have not seen that little boy since he was 22 months old, I've never paid child support, sent a birthday or Christmas card and I don't call. He calls another man DAD because I'm a POS deadbeat father.....



What have you done for your children? Have you had to wear old worn-out clothes so that they can have something nice that fits? Have you worked 7 days a week to make sure that they have not only the things that they need but the things that they want too?? Have you sacrificed ANYTHING for your children????


I guess we both know the answer to that.


Yes it makes my blood boil for you to post a picture of MY SON on your profile like you had anything at all to do with the young man he is today. You didn’t. I’m sure though that you are telling everyone that I'm such a bitch, that I won’t let you have anything to do with him. It's all me. .because you said that same crap about Jackie. It was you; you didn't have the time nor desire to do what was right. You could go to your house and smoke your cigarettes and say "Oh I just don't have the money" but did you do anything to help? NO. You quit having something to do with Cameron when you realized that the stalking and threatening wasn't working anymore. You realized that you had to leave me alone, so you left him alone too. It's your fault you are where you are today. You and you alone.


You might be Cameron's biological father but you have chosen not to know him, you chose that years ago. Now that isn't your choice anymore it's Camerons. He doesn't want to know you at this time. If that changes I will contact either Bre or Traci, other than that you need to leave Cameron out of your FB crap. You are not his DAD, he has one here that makes the necessary sacrifices for him. He has a dad that loves him and knows all about him. A dad that wants him to have the stuff that he desires bad enough to work like a slave to get it.



And as far as this comment "It ,actually makes me feel alot better about YOU."....I divorced you because I didn't give a crap about what you thought about me anymore!!! You are so vain to think that how you think of me would actually matter! You and your family decided not to see Cameron, not me. Your family decided to contact me...that ball was always in their court..now it's all Camerons decision.


Because you decided to swipe a picture of Cameron, no one wil be able to view the pictures that I put up...congratulations Mark again you managed to screw up a good thing for everyone for your own personal gratification.

Thanks for letting me vent on that Jerk again...you would think that after13 years I wouldn't let him get to me anymore....

Fathers Day

I wanted to take the time to tell you about a wonderful dad.  He isn't a Father..and doesn't want to "father" a child, he is happy with the one that calls him DAD.

This man sacrifices whatever it takes to make sure he has a good job, that makes enough to pay for our needs and his wants for Cam. He gets up every morning at 4:30. he gets home each night at 8:00.

On the weekends, he drags all his tiredness out of the house and we go to Carowinds, movies, to the park..whatever they want to do.  They throw the ball or ride dirt bikes, hang out doing "guy stuff".

He works extra hard on Saturdays to pay for things like horses, golf lessons, guitar lessons whatever that 12 (almost 13) year old boy wants.....


He does all this for my son, from my first marriage...a child that is not technically his, a child whose biological father has chosen not to know him...

When Wes and I started dating, he never asked me to get a sitter.  I had this 15 month old baby and every date we went on..Cam went to.   He would go with me to the store and ALWAYS buy Cameron something.  I remember telling him "Look, I'm a single mom, I can't afford for you to get him used to getting something every time we walk into the store"  Wes would just laugh and say "Let me worry about that"

(our first) Christmas together,  he spent more on Cameron than he did me. 

When he would pick me up to go somewhere it would be somewhere like Chuck - E - Cheese, McDonalds playground or the park. 

When Cameron was 3 years old his play school was teaching about mommy's and daddy's.  He was supposed to tell their names and where they worked.  Cameron had not seen my ex-husband in over a year and he was just not someone we talked about. When he came home he wanted me to take him to see Wes.  We were sitting there eating he looked over and said "Wes, I want to be your daddy...no...I want you to be the daddy...(sigh) I wanna call you my daddy"  Wes said "Okay"  Cameron was sitting there for a second then looked back and said "When Mrs. Cauthen says who is your daddy and where does he work I wanna say Wes Jennings is my daddy"  Wes said "Okay buddy, what ever you want"  I found out that he had already told them that Wes was his daddy..he just needed to know it was okay.

Wes has never played baseball...but you should see him outside trying to help Cam improve his game...
I can't imagine how hard it was to sell his motorcycle, the one "hobby" he has had since high school because between soccer, baseball and football there was never time to ride...

That man sacrifices more in a day for Cam than his biological father has in his whole life!!!!  

I'm so blessed to have such a wonderful DADDY for my son, God needed someone else to be his father but He sure sent  the right man to be his DADDY!! I'm so glad that He brought us together.



He is a wonderful dad...I always think of this song on Fathers Day, when Cam starts talking about what to buy:

I hope you all had a wonderful day with your fathers!